Guest post by Brenda Sedore
It took me a long time to find my voice. I didn’t start writing with serious intention until I was in my mid twenties. Even then I had no idea of the type of writing I wanted to do or what I was good at. Haven’t we all been at that place? So, I started what I now realize was a seriously ambitious project; a Medieval novel.
I worked at it for a while. It wasn’t horrible, but it wasn’t my best work either. I then started the first draft of my current novel. After writing at least two drafts, I put it aside and began a completely different style of book. It was more of a chick-lit novel, which was popular at the time. It wasn’t horrible either, in fact there are many parts that are excellent. But, it still wasn’t my voice and the passion wasn’t there for me.
I began another novel, this one more in the vein of my second novel and it was excellent right from the start. This one was in my voice. I realized that I couldn’t work on a second novel until my first one was complete. I know, it sounds like I was going crazy. What I was doing was exploring my writing. I was figuring out what inspired me. What type of writing did I enjoy?
I went back to The Ties that Wound, my second novel that I’d written a couple of drafts of. I hired an editor to help me shape up the book. She advised me to rewrite it. So, I began rewriting. I got about 40,000 words in and then my life fell apart. My husband and I got a divorce. So, the writing was shelved again for almost 2 years.
During that time I got together with a wonderful man, who is also a writer, and the owner of this blog. We worked through the things life threw at us and then we both began writing again. By the time I got back into it, everything had changed for me.
I spent twenty years with a man who kept me from being myself. It’s a long story, but it wasn’t until I left that I was able to expand into everything I am as a person. This, of course, affected my writing. I had to take some time to re-evaluate and get comfortable with my new style. The important thing to remember is that our writing will evolve as we do.
Up until recently I felt that I was more inclined to write non-fiction than fiction. I was still struggling to find my voice. It wasn’t until I opened up my half-rewritten novel, The Ties that Wound, that I realized I’d known my voice all the time. It was just that the style of writing I do best is the type that pulls everything out of me. It is scary to reveal that much of myself. Daryl has talked about this before. One of the reasons I was struggling was because of fear. What if I couldn’t deal with the subject matter in a sensitive enough way? Then I realized if it’s my voice, I will do a good job.
I recently read in the book, Finding Your Voice by Les Edgerton, a story about how he was reading letters from these prison inmates and how he found them so interesting and funny. They were imaginative and it caused him to think that he had found a niche. He then asked these inmates to write him a short story. What he got from them shocked him. The stories they wrote were nothing like their letters. They were boring, stilted and not in any way worth publishing. He realized then that as soon as someone tries to write for an audience, they clam up. They try for a certain “voice” rather than just being themselves. You need to write for yourself and no one else. If you “try” to write, it won’t come out right.
“We get so accustomed to disguise ourselves to others that in the end we become disguised to ourselves.”~Francis Duc de La
That’s the key. You are the only person who can “speak” in your voice. No one else can put words together quite like you. Hone your voice. Don’t be afraid to be you in your writing. It’s what will make you stand out among all the other talent out there.
“I need to stop questioning myself…right?” ~unknown
At our recent writers’ group meeting, we all read from our assigned stories. It was a summer memory of 400-500 words. I was amazed at the variety of stories that were shared, all in each unique voice. One assignment, vastly different results. That’s why there can be so many different books in the world. Daryl has written a very good blog post called “Writer’s Block is a Lie“. In it he says that writer’s block can happen when you don’t write in your voice. I have found the same thing for myself. When I write in my voice, the writing flows freely.
How do you find your voice? Start with writing something natural to you, such as a journal or a letter to a good friend. In that letter, tell them a story or relate a funny incident that happened to you. Then open your novel and try to write in the same voice. Let those unique words and ways of putting a sentence together come out in your fiction. It takes practice, but after a while it will become second nature. The only drawback is, you may have to rewrite your novel as you realize most of what you’ve written so far is weak compared to what you’ve written in your voice.
One practice I have, which has helped me the most, is to begin each writing session by writing, freehand, in my journal. This not only gets me into my voice, but also gets the writing muscles stretched and ready for a workout.
Do you have a unique way to begin your writing session? For those of you who have found your voices, what tools, exercises or books helped you along the way?




